Embracing Vulnerability: How My Professional Coach Gave Me Permission to Be Authentically Messy

When I decided to take the plunge and enlist a professional coach, it felt like jumping into an unknown abyss. I was stuck in limbo and desperate for change but had no idea how to begin my journey down this unfamiliar path.

With their help though, I'm now well on my way!

My first session was March 9th of 2022. My coach, Ryan, laid out some ground rules for us but the most important one he said was to “show up as myself no matter what.” 

This permission was something I had never heard before from someone I considered an authority nor ever given myself.

As a leader, I was taught, you are always on stage, always have to be positive, leave your shit at the door, lead by example. Sure, I was told to be myself but never to show up as I was.

This created a really safe space for me and is something I cherish and pass along to my clients. 

He also told me he would speak hard truths a.k.a call me on my shit. He still does this to this day when he hears me start to beat myself up. I can be vicious to myself sometimes mentally but I am working on that :)

He also told me I didn’t need to come prepared everytime we met. This was refreshing as I have put so much time and energy in my life being prepared for everything. It’s exhausting.

I remember getting off that first zoom call full of hope for the first time in awhile. I had found someone who wanted to help me do some serious investing in myself. Yes, I had a very supportive husband and incredible boss, but this was different. 

I had found a partner. 

I didn’t feel alone anymore.

My first challenge to you: Find a partner.

Find someone who supports you, calls you out on your shit, holds you accountable and allows you to show up just as you are.

Christin